Fulfilling relationships are a key element to happiness, but unfulfilling relationships can damage our emotions.
Whether it’s a relationship with a girlfriend, a wife, a friend, a business partner or even a partner in crime how do you improve a relationship?
With divorce at an all time high, friends consistently falling out and business partnerships breaking down is it time for you to look at improving your relationships?
Here’s how…
Can’t watch the video? Here’s a summary.
1. Give More (51%/49%)
Sure it’s good to concentrate on yourself but are you serving the other person in the relationship?
Are you applying time to fulfil the other person and reach their needs? What people typically find is when they shift their attention to make the other person happy they’ll naturally reciprocate.
If your partner is annoyed at you for heading out with your mates at the weekend maybe she’s unfulfilled because you’re failing to spend quality time with her. If you did shift your attention and spend quality time with her (fulfilling her needs) she wouldn’t react when you went and spent time with your friends.
If you want to be happy in a relationship, make sure you’re making the other person happy.
2. The 5 Love Languages
We all feel love in different ways. What makes you happy in the relationship might not make the other person happy.
You might be hitting your head against the wall because no matter how many times you tell your partner ‘I love you’ she still remains unloved. To her, words might not help. She may feel loved through physical connection or quality time.
The 5 love languages works off this principle. It’s a simple test you and your partner do to determine each other’s love language. Here are the 5…
1. Quality Time
2. Words of Affirmation
3. Acts of Service
4. Physical Touch
5. Receiving Gifts
Utilise the test to find out how your partner feels loved. Once you know the love language tap into it, doing as much as you can to fulfil their needs through their given love language. If it’s Quality Time, apply more effort from now on to spend 1 on 1 time together.
When you tap into their love language you’ll find they’ll naturally reciprocate (as the first principle will apply) but by showing your partner your love language too you’ll allow them to understand what makes you happy in the relationship also.
Heres the test – sit down with your partner and complete it one at a time.
3. Love Yourself
How can you give love to others when you fail to love yourself?
Investing in your own happiness and your growth is one of the best things you can do. Not only will it allow you attract better relationships it will also intensify the love you can give to others.
When we lack self love we look to other people and things to make us happy. This lack of self reliance means we rely too much on the other person to make us happy. This often leads to insecurities, demanding too much from the other person and also expecting too much from the relationship.
Spend at least an hour each day doing something that you love and benefits your growth. Your happiness will allow you to make other people happy.
Improve Your Relationships
So there we have it. Like I mentioned in the video I don’t claim to be a ‘relationship expert’ but from personal relationships and helping others these 3 principles help massively.
Enjoyed it? Comment below and let me know!
[…] Here’s another article on how to have a good relationship. […]