How I Started Letting Go Of The Past

Mar 23,2016 / By Paul McGregor / No Comment

Let me ask you a question…

Why do we let the past control us? Why do we feel blame, guilt or sadness for things that have happened in the past? Can we change them? Of course we can’t.

There’s a good saying… It’s not what happens to you that defines you, it’s how you react to what happens to you that defines you. The actual quote is probably better worded than that, but hopefully you get the understanding.

When I lost my Dad to suicide I quickly went into victim mode. It was a horrible time in my life and I let that control me. One day doesn’t pass where I miss him, but I’ve reacted to that shit situation and pushed forward positively. I could have let that situation control me, I could have let the negativity behind it take the forefront and I could have continued to search for attention.

I wish what happened to my Dad never did, but I’m honestly proud of how I finally let the negativity around it go and moved forward positively.

When you learn to let go of the past a lot of things change. You feel less guilt, blame, sadness, and most importantly things you realise past occurrences that have a negative impact on your current behaviour. If you struggle to hold down relationships because you fear them leaving you it could lead back to a past occurrence where a loved one left you. That blame, that sadness continues to affect you today and once you let go of it you’ll start to grow.

Here’s how to let go of the past today…